When parents leave a huge hole in your heart......

Hey Heathershenhouse When you get hurt by your mother or father as a child, you spend the rest of your life trying to heal the wounds they created.  If they rejected you, you spend your life trying to fill that void.  These are the 2 biggest reasons we make destructive choices as adults. We are so desperate to get that love we missed out on that we make mistakes... sometimes BIG mistakes. The good news is that you can heal yourself and learn to make better decisions for yourself and your family! I'd love to schedule a free consultation call with you to discuss your healing process but in the meantime... Here are just 3 quick tips to begin the healing: 1 Face it and replace it!  If you aren't willing to acknowledge that there is a problem, you won't be able to replace it with a healthier habit! For example... for years I was getting involved with men that had serious problems.... some with addictions, some with untreated mental illness, and some that were just jerks. It wasn't until I faced that fact that it was ME choosing these men that I was able to change.  I did a deep dive and figured out that I am a "fixer" aka codependent, then I was finally able to learn how to make healthier decisions.  2 Own it! Until you own it, you can't fix it. Personal responsibility is the corner stone to any personal growth. I'm the one who married an alcoholic. No, his alcoholism isn't my responsibility, but being married to an alcoholic is. I didn't cause the problem but I participated in it when I married him and it's MY responsibility to own that.  With personal responsibility comes a great deal of POWER! Trust me, when you own it, you take your power back and only then are you able to make lasting change! 3 Stop biting your tongue! This was the biggest one for me. I would NOT speak up. Ever! I didn't speak up for myself, I didn't talk about any problems, and would NEVER admit that I had made a mistake.  Your voice is one of your greatest powers for healing! Ask for help when you need it. Don't deny problems because they only get worse. Advocate for yourself by saying no, or even HELL NO to things that will not bring you joy, peace, or happiness!  And for god sake's, find a better peer group if your friends or family aren't supportive! You may need a coach to help you learn to make better decisions for yourself until you get really good at it!  Listen, life with your parents is just how you started this sacred journey but it doesn't have to be how you end it. YOU are in charge now. YOU get to make your own decisions. YOU are a gift to this world.  Schedule a FREE call with me today and I'll share additional ways to heal from trauma, drama, and stress... hit reply to this email or reach out at my contact info below....  Sharing is caring! Please share! With love, gratitude, and inspiration, Heather Paris Call or Text: 607-592-6291 www.liveinspirednow.com  Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook! PS: Registration is OPEN for the Inspired Life School! If you would like to deep dive into your own personal growth & development, then learn how to help others, check it out now @ www.inspiredlifeschool.com    Share Tweet Forward Pin Share LIVE INSPIRED NOW, LLC © *|2019|* All rights reserved. Contact us: Heather Paris Call or text: 607-269-7815 Email: Heather@liveinspirednow.com Web: www.liveinspirednow.com Want to change how you receive these emails? You can update your preferences or unsubscribe from this list

Don't let A'holes control your narrative... 😱 😬

Hey Heathershenhouse Listen, if people don't like how you talk about them in your story, then they should have behaved better! I've said this statement at least 5 times in the past week so people must need this message!  You are NOT responsible for how your abuser feels, for how they think or behave, or for any consequences they experience as a result of you speaking your truth.  A big part of processing your painful experiences is to focus solely on how YOU feel about them. Abusers like to use "guilt" to continue to control their victims: "Well if you tell this story, how will I ever get a job? I can't get better if I can't support myself. No one will believe you anyway..."  Let me define guilt because this too gets very twisted... guilt is a feeling of worry, or unhappiness that you feel when you've caused harm.  The ABUSER is the one who caused HARM yet they feel no guilt in trying to continue to manipulate you.  From this day forward, reserve your guilt for times when you actually cause harm.... like if you accidentally run into a person with your shopping cart and run over their toe. Otherwise, you my friend, can tell your story without feeling any guilt, shame, or hesitation.... and when you do, you take your power back from the abuser!  ***Abuse takes many forms... physical, mental, emotional, financial, sexual, psychological, etc. It's any behavior or action that threatens, injures, manipulates or controls another person. If you think you might be in an abusive relationship, please seek help immediately.*** Need help? Hit reply to this email and let's set up a free call! I'd love to help you work through any challenges you are facing. Coaching is always confidential, it's fast and effective, and it works!  ************************************************************************ PS: LAST WEEK TO GET TICKETS TO WIN MY PINK CAMARO!!! How cool would it be to pick up your BFF's in a hot pink convertible Camaro??? Imagine the two of you with the top down, wind in your hair, visiting your fav shops, and turning heads along the way! (And the Instagram pix... omg really?) GUESS WHAT? YOU have a chance to WIN a Classic Camaro convertible custom painted in hot pink! Raffle Tickets are $50 each. Get them quickly because once we sell 200, that's it! A portion of the proceeds to benefit the Vaccine Rights Legal Defense Fund! Grab your ticket right away.... the winner will be drawn at random on July 28th on Facebook Live! GET TICKETS HERE!! GOOD LUCK & PLEASE SHARE!! About the Camaro: • 1996 Pink Chevrolet Camaro Convertible • HOT PINK!?!? (That's the most important right!?) • Manual 5 speed transmission • 101.000 Miles • V6 • Located in Port Byron, NY. *Must sell 200 tickets in order to have drawing* *Winner is responsible for their own vehicle registration and taxes. *Delivery available within 60 miles of Port Byron, NY. Don't wait, get your ticket now! Hit reply to this email if you have any questions or contact me at my info below!  Sharing is caring! Please share! With love, gratitude, and inspiration, Heather Paris 607-269-7815 www.liveinspirednow.com  Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook! This is the last week to purchase tickets to win the Pink Camaro! If you aren't local, you can still buy tickets and instead of taking the car, you can take a $2000. cash prize instead!! Your choice!! GET TICKETS HERE! I use CBD oil twice a day for lower back pain and it really works! No, you can't get "high" from CBD oil, and yes it's legal in all states! CBD is a wonderful and natural product to help with pain, anxiety, and much more! Have you wondered about CBD oil? Learn more or make a purchase here. Feel free to contact me for more info! Stressed? Tired? Overwhelmed? Kundalini is the yoga for awareness and combines movements with meditation, mantra, and deep relaxation. 🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️🧘‍♀️ Private instruction available in person, or virtual, or bring Kundalini yoga to your workplace, school, or center. Contact me today!  Or call / text: 607-269-7815 Share Tweet Forward Pin Share LIVE INSPIRED NOW, LLC © *|2019|* All rights reserved. Contact us: Heather Paris Call or text: 607-269-7815 Email: Heather@liveinspirednow.com Web: www.liveinspirednow.com Want to change how you receive these emails? You can update your preferences or unsubscribe from this list