Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have! Let's talk about self-hate.
Hate yourself? Here is how that scenario can play out: - You hate yourself, other people don't but they eventually tire of hearing you constantly rag on yourself.
- You hate yourself, you meet other people who hate themselves and you both live unhappily ever after.
- You hate yourself, you meet someone who abuses you and you tolerate it because you feel you deserve it.
- You hate yourself, you meet someone who treats you very mediocre but it seems like a dream compared to the way you treat yourself so you tolerate it.
- You hate yourself, your kids learn to hate themselves, they grow up thinking they aren't enough or aren't worthy of love and happiness.
I see people daily who hate themselves and the worse part is....
No one will ever treat you worse than you treat yourself.
So please. Do the hard work to resolve your inner conflict.
Start by asking yourself some of these questions: - Who hurt me as a child?
- Whose love or validation did I crave as a child?
- Who did I have to pretend to be to get love?
- Is this how I want to live the rest of my life?
Then, try these things to start seeing yourself in a more positive way: - Reach out and ask for help
- Start a mindfulness practice
- Try different things to discover what you love
- Create boundaries to keep out toxic people
- Journal about your feelings
- Laugh
- Say "no" to others way more often
- Say "yes" to yourself way more often
- Celebrate your own accomplishments no matter how big or small
Everyone says they want to "change the world" and this is the best way to do it! If we all just loved ourselves, it would change the tone of every other relationship we have and the world could easily change in one generation!
Self-love for the win!
Please reach out if you need help. I'm still offering "pay what you can" coaching! Just reach out and book a session that is convenient for you!
Much love and inspiration to you and yours,
Heather
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