Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Why your self care doesn't work...

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Do you know the difference between self care and self medicating? If not, that could be the reason your "self care" isn't working!

Self care is preventative. Self medicating occurs during emotional crisis. 

Self medicating happens when you've become exhausted, resentful, or upset. You've taken care of everyone else and no one cared back. Now you are "rewarding" yourself with something destructive because you are pissed off, sick of it all, or determined to give a giant middle finger to the world as pay back and you feel completely justified in doing so!

I've been there too. There is a better way.

Self care happens BEFORE you give every ounce of yourself. In fact, it happens before you are even the slightest bit uncomfortable. And if you do it preventatively, you are FAR less likely to ever self medicate again. 

Self medicating is trying to make yourself temporarily feel better at the expense of your health or well being. It's like trying to fill your cup with an eye dropper while allowing everyone else to drink out of it! There's never enough!

These are some examples of self medicating especially when done in excess: 

  • Gambling
  • Drinking
  • Drug use
  • Sexual deviance
  • Spending money aka retail therapy 
  • Going outside of your relationship
  • Stealing / Lying
  • Eating
If there is a chance that you'll feel terrible after, you could get arrested, you could lose your job, relationship, or integrity, you are self medicating. 

Self care is identifying your needs and meeting them in positive and healthy ways. It's keeping your cup full and allowing others to have whatever flows over the edge. 

Some examples of self care:

  • Meditating
  • Yoga or exercise
  • Taking a walk
  • Deep breathing / fresh outdoor air
  • Visiting people you love
  • Calling a lifeline: friend, coach, parent, etc.
  • Body work: massage, facial, mani/pedi
  • Taking a bath
  • Trying something new / adventure
  • Smiling (totally under-rated)
  • Snuggles with a pet or loved one
  • Cup of tea
  • Reading a book / learning something new
When you take care of yourself, you teach others how to care for you too! You'll feel better about any challenges that come your way, and you give other people permission to care for themselves as well... especially your kiddos who are watching and modeling everything you do! 

Self care is not a luxury, it's mandatory if you want to live your best, healthiest, and happiest life! 

What is your favorite thing to do for self care? Hit reply to this email and let me know! 

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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

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