| Hey Heathershenhouse When you get hurt by your mother or father as a child, you spend the rest of your life trying to heal the wounds they created.
If they rejected you, you spend your life trying to fill that void.
These are the 2 biggest reasons we make destructive choices as adults. We are so desperate to get that love we missed out on that we make mistakes... sometimes BIG mistakes.
The good news is that you can heal yourself and learn to make better decisions for yourself and your family!
I'd love to schedule a free consultation call with you to discuss your healing process but in the meantime...
Here are just 3 quick tips to begin the healing:
1 Face it and replace it!
If you aren't willing to acknowledge that there is a problem, you won't be able to replace it with a healthier habit! For example... for years I was getting involved with men that had serious problems.... some with addictions, some with untreated mental illness, and some that were just jerks.
It wasn't until I faced that fact that it was ME choosing these men that I was able to change.
I did a deep dive and figured out that I am a "fixer" aka codependent, then I was finally able to learn how to make healthier decisions.
2 Own it!
Until you own it, you can't fix it. Personal responsibility is the corner stone to any personal growth. I'm the one who married an alcoholic. No, his alcoholism isn't my responsibility, but being married to an alcoholic is. I didn't cause the problem but I participated in it when I married him and it's MY responsibility to own that.
With personal responsibility comes a great deal of POWER! Trust me, when you own it, you take your power back and only then are you able to make lasting change!
3 Stop biting your tongue!
This was the biggest one for me. I would NOT speak up. Ever! I didn't speak up for myself, I didn't talk about any problems, and would NEVER admit that I had made a mistake.
Your voice is one of your greatest powers for healing! Ask for help when you need it. Don't deny problems because they only get worse. Advocate for yourself by saying no, or even HELL NO to things that will not bring you joy, peace, or happiness!
And for god sake's, find a better peer group if your friends or family aren't supportive! You may need a coach to help you learn to make better decisions for yourself until you get really good at it!
Listen, life with your parents is just how you started this sacred journey but it doesn't have to be how you end it. YOU are in charge now. YOU get to make your own decisions. YOU are a gift to this world.
Schedule a FREE call with me today and I'll share additional ways to heal from trauma, drama, and stress... hit reply to this email or reach out at my contact info below....
Sharing is caring! Please share! With love, gratitude, and inspiration, Heather Paris
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