"I struggled with counseling that didn't seem to help until I had a nervous breakdown..."

Hey Heathershenhouse I had the extreme pleasure of interviewing Stephanie Jensen to share her experience and wisdom with you! Stephanie went through a host of trauma in her early years and though she probably wouldn't describe herself like this... she is the picture of grace and courage. I admire her deeply and am very proud to call her a client, peer, and a friend! Here is the very candid interview with Stephanie and her info so you can follow her on social media!   What struggle did you experience? How long did you struggle? "Overcoming childhood trauma i.e. sexual abuse, alcoholic father, codependent and abusive mother, abandonment from extended family when I spoke the truth of the sexual abuse." How did you get through it? "I struggled with counseling that didn't seem to help until I had a nervous breakdown when my son was about 6 years old. I started searching for something new and came across Tony Robbins audio program. That lead me to hiring my first coach, taking the coaching certification and doing a crap ton of ongoing work." How do you or did you deal with it on a day to day basis? "Unwanted criticism or advice is my biggest trigger or the fear of receiving it. I often will retreat and journal about it. Sometimes I exercise if I need to offload energy. And sometimes I take little trips on my own to connect with myself. AND I have a coach." What did you wish you knew when you were struggling? "I wish I had know that I the outcome I feared so much wasn't going to kill me and that I had the power to thrive in spite of it." What things did people say to you during that time that you found helpful? What things did people say to you during that time that made you feel worse? "The best thing that people said was nothing. Their presence was the best. Or taking me to do something fun instead of coddling me. "You should" or "you should've" were/are the absolute worst things that anyone could say to me." What advice can you share with women who are going through a similar struggle now? "You are not alone. Those things you think that NO ONE will understand, other women have those thoughts, fears, confusion, and delusions. No matter how isolated you feel, you are NOT. Go to a group, hire a coach, or do a program." Can you offer some words of wisdom for other women who might be struggling? Every step toward healing, no matter how small or how slow is a step in the right direction. If you loved this interview, can relate to any of it, or would just like to say hello... please reach out to Stephanie directly on social media:  Stephanie Jensen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.smithjensen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephjensen1/ Need help? Don't suffer in silence. Reach out today. Sharing is caring! Please share! With love, gratitude, and inspiration, Heather Paris Call or Text: 607-592-6291 www.liveinspirednow.com  Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook! PS: Registration is OPEN for the Inspired Life School! If you would like to deep dive into your own personal growth & development, then learn how to help others, check it out now @ www.inspiredlifeschool.com    Share Tweet Forward Pin Share LIVE INSPIRED NOW, LLC © *|2019|* All rights reserved. Contact us: Heather Paris Call or text: 607-269-7815 Email: Heather@liveinspirednow.com Web: www.liveinspirednow.com Want to change how you receive these emails? You can update your preferences or unsubscribe from this list

An End to the Abuse...

Hey Heathershenhouse "Toxic people NEVER change. They just change victims and blame everything on everyone else." Have you ever had those moments where you say, "what the hell am I doing?" Well, I had that moment…but bigger, and it changed my life. I'm fully aware that you are in charge of your own happiness, but why wasn't I taking charge? Most likely a combination of a gazillion things, right? The light bulb truly went off in my head during a breakup, recently. It was the most insane 'AH HA' moment I've had in a while and I finally knew it all needed to end. Right here, right now, no excuses or "what if's" lurking about. I had been in a toxic relationship for years. Just going with the flow and settling. The last straw was another incident of cheating but with someone close to home; someone he would hang out with every weekend because the couple were his best friends. After kicking him out, it still took about 4 months to really see that this was never going to work. When you have a family, you keep a notion in the back of your head that maybe things just might change. But this was never going to be the case. After continued lies and manipulation, I finally realized that I let this happen. I started a relationship with this man. I put up with verbal abuse and manipulation and I continued to have a relationship with him. When I shifted the blame to myself it felt like someone let me out of captivity for the first time and the universe opened up and said; I told you, dummy! Then... I cried! My reason for crying even changed. It came from a place like, "damn, I really need to do something". I cried because I was mad at myself. A good portion of my life was gone and it was only my fault. I wasn't crying because I felt sorry for myself and our broken family anymore. And, sure, that still weighs on my mind but, does that ignite change? Not so much in my case. Now…the work begins on not letting the anger towards myself manifest too deeply. -Brittany Riggs Thank you Brittany Riggs for sharing such a personal story and for continuing to inspire other women who think they need to stay in an abusive relationship!  Please check out Brittany on social:  Facebook: Girls Unscripted Instagram: @girls_unscripted Email: girlsunscripted13@gmail.com Need help? Don't suffer in silence. Reach out today. Sharing is caring! Please share! With love, gratitude, and inspiration, Heather Paris Call or Text: 607-592-6291 www.liveinspirednow.com  Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook! PS: Registration is OPEN for the Inspired Life School! If you would like to deep dive into your own personal growth & development, then learn how to help others, check it out now @ www.inspiredlifeschool.com    Share Tweet Forward Pin Share LIVE INSPIRED NOW, LLC © *|2019|* All rights reserved. Contact us: Heather Paris Call or text: 607-269-7815 Email: Heather@liveinspirednow.com Web: www.liveinspirednow.com Want to change how you receive these emails? You can update your preferences or unsubscribe from this list